We have said it before - our stories are so similar. Your words spoke to me. It's not having someone to share decision-making with, not having that someone who was there for me for 60 years, and who added so much to my life. I had a dream this morning, I was overwhelmed with things to do that for some reason I couldn't do - or thought I couldn't do. Dan came into the dream assessed the situation and began helping me fix it - in his typical fashion.
Our stories have so many parallels Ramona except I was the caregiver and that 12 year age spread was always a kind of unspoken acknowledgement that Don would probably transition before me. Sending you a virtual hug and wishes for some peace of mind. I had an "expectation" at the end of the first year that somehow some kind of "new normal" would have come into being. Now I see more clearly that this is probably a life-long process of "reinvention" as Prue mentioned recently. I like Alice's approach of "trust your instincts". At the same time I have also been told that on occasion I can allow myself to "make a decision not to make a decision" for the moment. Stay well....
Oh...tears. Such tender memories. And here you are, with your will to press on still kicking. Despite the inability to see him physically, I am 100% sure that the vital parts of you and Ed continue to co-exist. He's part of you, and vice versa. Fear not! Your decision-making apparatus is sound! Look at you go!
Trust your instincts. Wishing you the best and good health.
Ed sounds like one heck of a guy, Ramona. x
I had cancer after I had already learned to grieve, so I knew I could survive it. I'm thinking/hoping it can work the other way 'round, too.
You learned so much about how to live from Ed…..he is proud if you♥️
We have said it before - our stories are so similar. Your words spoke to me. It's not having someone to share decision-making with, not having that someone who was there for me for 60 years, and who added so much to my life. I had a dream this morning, I was overwhelmed with things to do that for some reason I couldn't do - or thought I couldn't do. Dan came into the dream assessed the situation and began helping me fix it - in his typical fashion.
Mona,
You are my hero in so many ways! Keep on being you…and stay well!
❤️K
Hugs from Ohio!
Behind you all the way, Ramona. Whether you want to talk about it or not. Solidarity...
Our stories have so many parallels Ramona except I was the caregiver and that 12 year age spread was always a kind of unspoken acknowledgement that Don would probably transition before me. Sending you a virtual hug and wishes for some peace of mind. I had an "expectation" at the end of the first year that somehow some kind of "new normal" would have come into being. Now I see more clearly that this is probably a life-long process of "reinvention" as Prue mentioned recently. I like Alice's approach of "trust your instincts". At the same time I have also been told that on occasion I can allow myself to "make a decision not to make a decision" for the moment. Stay well....
Oh...tears. Such tender memories. And here you are, with your will to press on still kicking. Despite the inability to see him physically, I am 100% sure that the vital parts of you and Ed continue to co-exist. He's part of you, and vice versa. Fear not! Your decision-making apparatus is sound! Look at you go!