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Just this morning, we were talking about the fact that none of the three doors into this house could be easily navigated in a wheelchair. Every few months I yearn for a view of water, of weather coming in from the west, of sunset skies. Three or four times a day, I mutter about the damned stairs. We twlk again about a smaller house. Then we look around and one of us says, "It's going to be hard to beat this place." And we decide to wait a while longer to get serious about a move.

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May 11, 2023Liked by Ramona Grigg

Well, Ramona, that gave me a good cry.

This would be the reasoning of the folks who were going to move, and were going to move, and were going to move SOON, and then announced they weren’t moving after all. This may end up being my wife and me, although I sincerely hope not and we are trying to commit ourselves as much as possible to move into a retirement community Real Soon Now.

Good luck, dear lady! 💚

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May 11, 2023Liked by Ramona Grigg

After reading your piece and knowing that I may be in your situation in the next 10 years. (I'm 79 and my husband is a year younger and we are in relatively good health...

We live in VT and I was wondering if MI has Home Share Programs, such as we have here? I've read about them in some States and they sound interesting. Keeping you in my thoughts and wishing you the best.

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Will it sound strange if I say that even though I don't currently have a home, I identify with how you feel? That's because I so love our nomadic way of living that even though I'm sure there are plenty of lovely houses we could live, I don't want any right now bc I love the way things are. And I know that one day I probably will have to give it up, so why do it now?

I'm glad you realized what you wanted and hope you find a way to make it work out.

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It sounds like you know exactly where home is. . .maybe that will change, but for now - perfect. Besides, it is your connection with Ed. I moved after Dan died, but I brought a lot of him with me - that makes it home for me.

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Such a perfect journey through the heart and soul.

I understand exactly what you are saying and you have my wholehearted support.

Life's for living, Ramona, not looking for second-best. You know the risks and you crave the positives. Eyes wide open.

Go you!

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So beautiful ...

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May 12, 2023Liked by Ramona Grigg

What a beautiful tribute to you, Ed, and your sweet home. My Mom talked about it so lovingly. Your choice is clear and from the heart and it touches my heart too.

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Something about this older post drew me in. My circumstances are completely different from yours but also I can relate to this so much. I’m looking forward to reading more.

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