Because I can't get the attacks against Martha Stewart off my mind.
I think a woman is at her most beautiful when she is older and full of wisdom and life. Looks don’t make a woman beautiful, it’s her confidence, maturity and the life lessons she has learned that make her beautiful despite how many years she has behind her.
Brava! I am just coming to understand this about me - 75 will be my 50. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
And Martha Stewart, you go girl.
Right on Mona. I didn't comment on the first writing and will now. I choose to keep my comments simple. We already know all of the marketing manipulations to make women feel less than based upon appearances. I'm not a fan of Martha Stewart. That has nothing to do with the fact that she is a very pretty human being. They come in all ages and genders. There are beautiful sunsets, flowers, paintings, animals, lakes, rivers, oceans, skies, forests, etc., on our beloved planet. There are physically beautiful people too and I choose to appreciate the beauty. Now, if we want to comment on inner beauty, that's another subject all together. For now, she's simply a pretty human.
I agree wholeheartedly.
Maybe this is part of the reason that so many younger women were so negative and aghast with Martha. This is what my 50 yr. old second cousin posted on her FB page.
" I had Martha Stewart shoved at me for many years as the ideal of a “homemaker” that I cannot and did not choose to live up to, so I have pretty strong feelings about her and her choice to show up as a highly processed version of an 81 year old woman. She is beautiful, and good for her but I prefer authenticity."
Her grandmother, who loved Martha, died a few years ago at 99. Second cousin's mother and 2 aunts range from early 60's to the late 70's, and all 3 have followed in the ideal homemaker tradition in their own ways. (I happen to be 79 but have never been a Martha fan.)
Personally, I don't think the young women of today who are critical of Martha could handle it if they suddenly aged 20-30years.
Keep on shouting BS!
Ms. Stewart has been a lifestyle influencer for over half a century. From catering weddings in her 20s, she's expanded her influence to include entertaining, china, glassware, furniture, floral design, indoor plants, gardening, and all things upscale housewifery: the best ways to care for linens, polish silver, raise chickens, preserve fruits.
As her businesses and wealth grew, her homes and gardens multiplied, and we all knew she wasn't trimming those hedges and collecting those eggs and shining that floor herself, no matter what impression her magazine and TV shows gave. We all knew a paid staff probably numbering in the hundreds making it all look effortless and serenely beautiful, just as we all know a crew of 6 or 7 people were behind that camera, fixing her hair, lighting her so the shadows enhanced the illusion of youthfulness, posing her so the substantial belly curves nicely, airbrushing the cellulite.
The effect was dazzling. Was it fakery? Or was it the swan metaphor- a lovely being gliding along in a peaceful lake, paddling furiously below the surface? That woman has worked hard, decade after decade, to make her lifestyle (if not her life) LOOK easy. Appearance is the product she has been selling her whole life. The swimsuit photo is not an aberration, it's just a part of her product line, and as usual, it looks great.
Ms. Stewart performs womanhood the way Hemingway performed manliness. Their lives became their product and they sold what they had to sell. You don't have to buy it, or emulate it. I personally prefer Martha's work to Ernest's. She seems to be having a great time these days, and I say good for her.
Talk to old people?!?! To hear what they think?!?!? As if they can speak for themselves and have their own opinions?!?!
You know, that makes total sense.
I've just come back from my senior classical ballet class where we all have lines, aches, droopy boobs, and sundry other age-related issues. We danced up a storm today - even learned the first steps in a new choreography for a set piece - the Spanish Dance from Swan Lake.
I'm sure the younger women out there would be aghast that we are even daring to put our bodies in leotards and floating skirts or that we are outrageous to think we can do what we do.
I would say to them quite simply that we're living our best life and my hope is that when they reach their mid-70's they get to live theirs too. Without criticism or fetishist attitudes toward bodies and faces.
PS: I agree with Linda. 70's are my new 50's!
I don't mind being old when I consider the alternative (ha, ha).
Loved the post today! I totally agree with you. Why can't we celebrate instead of tear down?
I enjoyed your piece and I agree with you.
I took a different tack in my article posted on Substack, if you'd care to take a look. https://substack.com/inbox/post/123999693 I'd be interested in knowing what you think.
Like you, I'm writing about my own transformation from who I was to who I am now, and find it encouraging to be part of a community that can respectfully differ.