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I am 84 years old and on a constant rant. True, my body can't do what it did when I was a teen, but my spirit is alive and well. - thank you very much. I resent people, the media, and society lumping me in a group of others the same age. I am not them. . I am me.

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Feb 14Liked by Ramona Grigg

Loved the post today!

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Yeah, baby!!!!!

At 71 and with my friends aged between 60's and 80's, we appreciate your rage and your feisty attitude.

We are classical ballet students, swimmers, kayakers, horse riders, bikeriders, childminders, philosophers, cooks, cleaners, gardeners, bushwalkers and there's even a writer amongst us. Our bodies sag, our tendons stretch and for some, bones are brittle. But we are meaningful (and wrathful if crossed) folk who still hold a vitally valid place in this selfish world.

I just listened to Sheila Hancock's Old Rage - her memoir about a world that is driving her mad and she became my new best friend. Excellent book! Recommended to all we 'old folk'!

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I bristle at most generalities based on generations. Less so about Boomers, because really, our generation does have a lot to answer for. We failed to leave a better world for our children, something you and your parents did. That's not ME, exactly -- I didn't vote for any of the monsters, from 1976-present -- but I still feel a twinge of responsibility.

I'll put all Republicans in the same basket. But I think generalizing about a group of people has value only if they chose to be in that group.

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Amen. It's tough physically to grow old...and have kids who don't want to admit that their mom and dad are - well, old.

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Feb 15Liked by Ramona Grigg

And a lovely rant it is!

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I'm not 85 yet, but I'm gotten old enough that people have the temerity to call me "Young lady." It's always said in that jocular way that men have who are no longer young themselves and clearly feel panicked about it. (To be fair, it irritates me just as much when women do this, but it is most frequently men).

What to do? Call them out. Don't smile and take it. Call them out politely, but call them out.

One particularly rotund man (a clergyman) called me this recently and got quite irritated when I told him it was condescending and that no woman over 13 appreciates being called "young lady."

"Would you think it was a compliment," I asked him, looking him up and down, "if I called you 'Slim'?"

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Feb 17Liked by Ramona Grigg

Excellent column, Mona. In 2019 I attended 5 funerals. That's a bunch. Most were for people my vintage (you and I are the same age), one was a younger woman who had battled diabetes for most of her life. You're absolutely right, even people in their sixties don't look at life as we do. I for sure did not...it was one of the most active periods of my life. I admit to occasionally referring to my age with humor, mainly because NOBODY wants to hear me whine about the stuff that sometimes seems overwhelming. But you know one pet peeve? When a celebrity reaches their eighties or nineties and dies and there is all this OH NO, HOW SAD reaction. Holy Hannah, people! What a great life this person lived, and face it: NOBODY LIVES FOREVER. (One of my favorite lines from "House.") So instead of mourning the expected death of an old person (NLF), how about CELEBRATING IT?? -- that's my rant and I'm sticking to it. Oh... and I'm curious to learn what comes next. (Another topic for another time.)

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I so agree with your rant! I'm not yet at your age (though I'm not young) but I've always hated that way of looking at and talking about older people. I once worked with a nice, well-meaning millennial at a solar-related company who talked about a "sweet little old lady" persona wanting to go solar. I had to tell him not to talk about old women that way! What is it about getting old that would make us sweet? Hmph!

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Prue Batten has just recommended I come visit you here at Substack Ramona and I'm so glad I did. Thank you so much for the 1-2-3-4 Newbie tutorials - they are great! I look forward to forging a connection with you as my next great adventure of re-invention unfolds. Now in what I call the "4th quarter" and creating a new persona as "The Crone aka Wise Woman (in training)" I relate to this post and truly appreciate your tongue-in-cheek comments and sense of humor. :-)

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