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You’re making me anxious just reading about this. It will most likely be at least 10 years before I have to move again but I’m already worried about. 🀣

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🀣🀣🀣

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Apr 8Liked by Ramona Grigg

I sometimes add something in my Google calendar on the wrong day or even month when I'm making the date on the phone. And I've shown up early for a dentist appt. and a haircut. It happens. I think it's about being distracted and bombarded by information. I cut one newspaper subscription because I didn't want to feel I had to wade through it, as much as I enjoyed some of what it offered. I may cut another--and that would be a huge change since I've been reading the NYT since I was a teen.

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Apr 8Liked by Ramona Grigg

And I thought the eclipse was *tomorrow* and only realized it was happening today when I looked out the window and said to my spouse, "Doesn't the sky look weird?"

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Funny!

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I'm easily distracted these days. I think it comes from being alone in the quiet for so long. I have to get used to these busy days again! I ended my long affair with the NYT a few months ago and thought I might start it up again, but they've hired some silly woman to comment on the political scene this year so, no. Not gonna do it until they get serious about how close we are to the end of our democracy.

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I think it comes from moving! What is more mentally-dislocating / disordering than changing your entire environment? And after so many years! You're lucky you can find your right foot!

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Apr 8Liked by Ramona Grigg

Oh gosh, that's just WAY too much going on! I wish you well on this journey and your new home.... I HATE PACKING! Be well!

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Thank you. I hate packing, too. Especially when I've had months to toss out stuff and I just didn't do it. 😏

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Apr 8Liked by Ramona Grigg

I was just thinking of you… take a breath, have a cup o’ tea and be well Lady Ray!

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Thank you. As it happens, I'm sitting here with a cup of Earl Gray. My British friend up the street frowns on anything but strong, authentic British tea--says it's like drinking plain water--but I do love Earl Gray! 😊

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Apr 8Liked by Ramona Grigg

UGH. I may need to move from Philly...rent is crazy. Lease is up in August. I've sort of learned to travel light, but it's still a pain! My dear young friend (she's a colorectal surgeon) wants me to move to Alaska with her as she begins a new job in Anchorage. πŸ€” Seriously thinking about that as another adventure might be in store! The Northern Lights, the wildlife, the complete change of scenery... we'll see!! And good luck to you!

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Alaska! You're going, right? Maybe binge-watch 'Northern Exposure' before you go. I watched it again a few months ago after years in between and I thoroughly enjoyed it!

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Apr 8Liked by Ramona Grigg

I'm seriously thinking about it. My relationship with my sweet guy doesnt seem to have much of a future...I just lost a chunk of business...I would have almost no expenses in Alaska and it seems intriguing! I'll keep you posted!!

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Please do keep me posted. It does sound wonderful and you surely need some wonderful right now!

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Apr 9Liked by Ramona Grigg

Thank you Ramona... appreciate the kindness. Keeping a positive outlook! ❀️

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Apr 8Liked by Ramona Grigg

You got this, Ramona. A month from now, you’ll be snug in your new place wondering why you were worried. πŸ˜ŠπŸ’š

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Sounds wonderful. I'll hang onto that image while I'm rummaging through dusty stuff I haven't seen in years!

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I recently lost track of an ENTIRE month while doing our travel planning. So I think your mistakes are well within the normal range by comparison!

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Wow, that's rough. So why am I laughing? 🀣

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Because it's freaking hilarious!!!

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Apr 8Liked by Ramona Grigg

One of my least favorite things about moving is that decisions must be made about all the things and it cannot be outsourced. Packing? I can get help with that but sifting through my high school journals, photos I took in college, hand knit baby sweaters no one wants quite yet and maybe never (but vintage and made by great grandmas!), hand me down depression era glassware? Decor, cookware? Questions must be asked. Am I really ever again going to need a set of springform pans again now that I know I am allergic to both eggs and dairy? So many decisions. It can be exhausting so be good to yourself.

Also, if it makes you feel better I was a day early to my hair appointment last week 😝

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I have a rule. Nothing handmade by friends or relatives stays behind, and all decisions on anything vintage need to be slept on. I am getting better about the kitchen stuff since I finally admitted to myself that cooking full meals is probably never going to be my thing again.

Oh, and I do feel better now that you've confessed that!

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May 4Liked by Ramona Grigg

This is a great rule, Ramona. I will keep it in mind. Have just drafted a short blog post about a box of notebooks I have in storage, then read both your posts about your move. Wishing you all the best on your big change xx

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Apr 8Liked by Ramona Grigg

Hang in there!! Moving is stressful. When we moved from old place some 2000 miles to the new place - things like you describe happened to us. And we were in our early 40s!! So I think "normal moving stress" when I read your post. You're going to be okay!!!!

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I kept telling myself 'no move is ever perfect'. They're always full of unpleasant surprises. My biggest one today was the total from the moving company. Ouch! It's painful!

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Apr 8Liked by Ramona Grigg

Yes! Very painful! Our move across 2000 miles was so expensive we chose to economize on hotels and tent camped along the way.

Yes, to sleep tents. On the ground.

If your move does not involve sleeping on the ground on your way from A to B then you're doing great!!!

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No, no sleeping on the ground for me anymore. I'd never get up again! That's an adventure for the young.

But think of it this way, Sue: what a story to tell! ❀️

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Apr 9Liked by Ramona Grigg

Lol!!!! Yes!!! It's a great story too! We bought a house, sight unseen over the internet, that was 2000 miles away from where we were living at the time!!! And though we were in our early 40s the tent camping for 6 nights was hard on us!! We did that 13 years ago and live in that house today and love it!!! You too will have a grand story to tell!! In the meantime remember to drink water and breathe!! πŸ’šπŸ’š

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Wait, you bought a house sight unseen over the internet? Where is THAT story? I demand to read it! πŸ˜‰

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Lol!!!! I'll have to see what I can do about that...πŸ˜‰πŸ’šπŸ’šπŸ’šπŸ’š

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Apr 10Liked by Ramona Grigg

I thought about writing a whole post about our buying a house sight unseen over the internet and tagging you. But that would mean lots of typing words in a row. I could handwrite our story, illustrate it and publish it and tag you with the finished book that you could download. But I don't have time to do that right now. So I've decided to give you the short version:

In 2010 we were living in Oklahoma, a Republican state that wrote laws saying gay people wouldn't have any human rights whatsoever. Even our wills, powers of attorney or other legal papers weren't guaranteed to be honored. (We witnessed more than a few times when a gay couple were denied access to each other during medical emergencies, when their wills and wishes were ignored)

We had often vacationed to the Washington and Oregon area and we have family in the region. In 2010 we came to Washington for a month long house hunt. We met a realtor who would work with us long distance! After we went back to Okla our realtor sent us info about houses each week with links and photos. We were somewhat picky-ish at that time. Then October 2010 happened: there was a 4 plus hour long city council meeting in the Okla town we lived in that was a religious based vitriolic diatribe against gay people. We called our realtor "Find us a hole in the ground with a tarp on it ASAP!! We want out of here!!" So the weekly contact with our realtor became daily contact and in only a few months we had bought a house in Washington!!!! We packed a Penske truck and within a week of closing on the house we were on the road to Washington state!! My wife drove the Penske truck. I followed in our car with the dogs and the tent camping gear. In Colorado we began to breathe...

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You know it better than I do, I am sure, but aging is not for wimps. We just buried mom. And now it's like a clock is ticking down for Dad. Horrible feeling. He feels it too, I think. You hang in there, and rest assured, there's no shortage of people out here rooting for you.

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That's so kind of you! I'm sorry about your mom. So sorry. I hope your dad's days are peaceful, at least. It is so hard, even when we know it's inevitable.

I won't exactly be a wild woman now, but I'm going to live this life with all the joy I can muster.

After this move, that is. 😏

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Apr 8Liked by Ramona Grigg

I think you are very resilient and your sense of humour will see you through this new episode of your life.

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Thank you. Let's hope so! πŸ™„

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Apr 8Liked by Ramona Grigg

Oh Mona! Welcome to the world of phone calls and chaos. Moving is so hard on so many levels.

By the time you've lost your marbles and all of your energy, you'll be moved in and arranging your things in ways that work for you. Keep the faith- you can do it, and you will. Sending strength, perseverance, and a heap of sisu.

❀️

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I really hate moving, which is why I've put off the hard stuff until now, three weeks before I move in. But I'm seeing some slow progress among the chaos. It'll all get done. Sue and the grandkids are coming up to help so I've kind of stopped worrying. ❀️

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It sounds like too many things on your mind at the moment. I doubt you'll need that keeper.

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I'm really trying to fend him off. I want some time to enjoy this new adventure!

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Apr 9Liked by Ramona Grigg

I also fasted this morning and went to my lab. I actually had an appointment today, but my doctor didn't send in an order. So - pretty much the normal course of things. Sigh. Good info about FedEx and Walgreens!

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Rats! Hate when that happens! I thought they were kidding when they said I could pick up my items at a Walgreens. 😏

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I was fortunate enough to be in the path of totality for the solar eclipse. The day started off cloudy but burned off enough for us to see pretty much everything. The sight was spectacular! It was so strange to be in darkness for 3+ minutes in the middle of the day. We even got to see Venus and Jupiter during those minutes. For someone who thought it wasn't going to be a big deal, I'm now willing to admit how wrong I was. It was truly awe-inspiring!

Moving is such a huge pain. But it will be worth it! Hang tough.

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Lucky you for the eclipse. Everyone who watched it in totality seemed to be blown away.

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LOVE that cushion. A mantra for life. You are managing the whole thing with aplomb, Ramona. Onwards!

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I love it, too. I'm a Tolkien fan and I love fantasy. I'm looking forward to this new adventure. Lets hope there's no danger ahead!

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